I just want to say that I love your posts. You have the most amazing replies to other people and are always compassionately truthful. You lift other people up and help give them back their dignity and self esteem.
I also really appreciate your honesty on your own situation. I think many people just want their spouse to come back and don't think about how much work would still be left to do. You've made me realize that both D and reconciliation are painful paths to walk down.
You've provided so much insight on WHs. My H is a MNG too, and they sound so similar. I'm just amazed though how willing they are to throw away their spotless reputation. I thought my H cared about his reputation more than anything. Did your H realize during his affair what other people thought of it, or was he in denial that anyone could blame him, or was he just too addicted to the affair to care? Every single mutual friend is disgusted with H, and I can't understand how he can just drop his entire friend circle. I thought he cared about those people.
