I sent this text this morning. "I can't do this anymore. It's time we discuss how this is going to end."
After about half an hour she responded "Ok".

My plan was to give it until the end of the year, but I am tired and ready.

M 53 W 54, M since 98
D15, D19
8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM
until 10/14
7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR
12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.