You actually cost me sleep last night because I read your posts before bed and I couldn't fall asleep because it made me angry. I guess I need to detach from you lol. So you're worried that anything that happens to the horse would become unforgivable but her completely destroying your soul and your family is forgivable on your end. WTF???
So in your mind your NC for two days is going to make he see she is destroying her family and make her wake up? WTF????
Now after reading hoosjims thread which btw has zero in common with your sitch, you decide you need to distance yourself and protect yourself enem though we've been telling you this for seven months. WTF????
Look man I am really sorry you're going through this but I truly believe you will be better off without her. If she ever gets her $hit together you can revisit a recon in the future. IMO you need to take at minimum a year to work on yourself and realize that you have value and that you will never allow someone to disrespect you again in this manner.