I think what Meat was saying is that the DESIRE to have sex doesn't always come from some deep emotional place. Once I am having sex with H, or even initiating sex with him it naturally becomes an emotional experience because....I have emotions for him! Very strong ones, too!!
But I don't always experience the desire to have sex with an underlying deep emotional connection to him. Sometimes I feel horny as all get out and seek HIM out and then the connection starts. Personally I see no difference in this approach than the arousal-then-desire cycle that a lot of LD people have.
No, I am not always wanting emotional closeness from him. Sometimes I just wanna have sex with him. But it is still a connection with him and a pretty strong one at that. And the emotional closeness comes whether I was seeking it out or not! It is a pretty well designed system, if you ask me. Again, this is in the vast minority of the time, but it does happen. I believe that it happens for him, too.
And this horniness is not just for sex...it is for sex with HIM. It is a very specific type of horniness. Well I don't know if this is making sense or not, but it is how I feel. And as Meat said earlier, my spouse is aware that this is how I am; I don't make it a secret or try to disguise it as a bid for emotional connection each time.
