Hey Jim, wow what a roller coaster it still is! So the D is still moving forward? Your W said she wants to reconcile, but she doesn't want to stop the D? And she refuses to go to MC? That's confusing. So is the fact that she isn't making any time for you. Like Maika said, you can tell more from actions than words, and it certainly sounds like her actions do not align with her words. I think if I were you I would put zero effort into her, just go about your life. Go NC on her. If she reaches out then explain to her that she needs to SHOW you she wants recon, not TELL you. And until you see ACTIONS there's nothing to discuss. She's got to to the work or this will never get off the ground.
We are literally maybe a week away from finishing the divorce after three years. At her suggestion, we are not stopping the process. I didn't bring it up, but I don't want to stop the process either. It's just a piece of paper after all.
We're at a crossroads of sorts. I want to go to MC because she took some things I said out of context and it took the MC to get her to understand what I was trying to say, and she doesn't because I did say some things there that were very hurtful to her. It's something we're going to have to figure out.
I'm already putting zero effort into this, for all the reasons you mentioned. I sent her a text last night asking if she was around this weekend, because I wanted to go see my parents, and wanted to make sure she'd be around for D17. She said "haha. And I thought you were going to ask if I could get together with you this weekend since we haven't talked in a while." I replied with "I am not going to put any pressure on you to get together. I am sure when you are up to it you will reach out." One of my 180's is to not pressure her into spending time with me, and I think my text made clear that if she wanted it to happen, she needed to make it happen.
M:23 T:26 Me:53, Wife: 60 S:18 D:16 filed 7/16 W moved out 4/28/17
