Hello all. I've been following the forum for the last couple of weeks, and I've found it to be very helpful. My wife (34 years old) decided 4 weeks ago that she was no longer in love with me, and told me she was considering getting a divorce.
A couple of days later, it was revealed that she is having an emotional affair with some guy who lives 1000 miles away, and she refuses to stop texting with him. I told her that with the OM in the picture, our relationship could not possibly move forward in any way. She still refuses to stop communicating with the OM.
Now, I admit our marriage was not perfect, and I certainly was not perfect. But now she says the last 13 years of being together were hell for her because I was too controlling and selfish. I was not aware she felt this way, and I told her that these are things we can work on, if only we both commit to working on them.
She says that now she doesn't know what she wants, and that she needs time and space to think about herself. She has moved into a hotel down the street, but still comes by to play with the dogs, to do her laundry here, and sometimes she has dinner with me. We don't have any kids.
My question is: How do I proceed with this situation? Should I do the LRT? Or just the regular non-LRT stuff in the book The Divorce Remedy? Or something else entirely? Help please!
