On my way to work, I was thinking you should talk to your W. Sounds like you did.

I believe this convo should happen also:

H:"W, I am going to Karaoke Saturday night. Would you like to join me?"
W:"Yes"
H:"Perfect. Wear that black sexy dress"
W:"OK"

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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