#14 Here we go again

[SteveLW]

I realized I told you a lot about my sitch but my point was if you set those boundaries....what are the consequences if she crosses them this time...the 3rd time?

Thanks l8. I love what you said about being able to deal with things without emotions. This is the way I have handled all of this! I am amazed by myself in that regard. I stopped by the old house on the way home on Wednesday. I thought I needed to cry so I tried to. I couldn't. In my other sitches I could cry at the drop of a hat, but I think that was the guilt for my part in everything. This time I believe I am innocent except for any role lasting effects from my past behavior may have influenced a lot of this.

I have been pretty firm on my boundary here. I will not tolerate this type of behavior, and I am willing to take action. The night I confronted I was firm and resolved in this. Which is why I think she jumped into the actions she has already taken. It has been 60 hours since I confronted her and her actions have all been trying to save this. I agree with Maika that the actions she has taken are not a long-term solution. But I also have to give this some time to settle down so that we can do the right things to move forward.

The IC is something I am going to take a hard line with. Initially, I want the therapist to be female and faith-based.But am open to thoughts on this.

Thanks l8, I remember both of us talking last Dec. about having doubts that we did the right thing in not just walking away ourselves! Hang in there brother!