Guys (and gals), there's no magic here. It's a process. Getting from where we are to where we want to be takes time. It isn't just a matter of saying "here, these are my expectations... meet them!" It's opening a dialog, building on a foundation, getting to know yourself and your partner. It's a voyage of discovery. The key is to let go of the "neediness" of wanting your PARTNER to validate your SELF, and be willing to validate your OWN self. Then, when you can stand on your own emotional legs, you have more to share with your partner. The other thing is, people naturally shy away from intimacy, because it's uncomfortable to get that close to anyone or let them get that close to us. So each partner will have to go through a period of re-acclimatization, getting used to the "new air". It's a process. Eventually, it may come down to a choice between either staying married or not, but that's up to each individual situation.
