I think part of the problem is that you don’t understand DB. Wondering if you ever read the book? You can gain respect by not filing for D. Your number one problem is you let her treat you like a doormat. She comes to you when she wants something. Take care of horse, swim in pool, emotional support when friend dies. You read that as her softening when she’s just using you. DB says no snooping you snoop. DB say not pursuit you pursue. DB says no cake eating and you love stuffing down her throat. DB says actions not words you hang on every word she says.
