Differentiation, Validation, and Fascination.

[MJontheMend]

I am suffering from the same level of confusion. If I am able to not expect validation from sex with my H and I am able to love and accept myself for the HD woman that I am and I am able to communicate to my H that I have certain clear cut expectations for a marital relationship, where do I go from there?

If he says "I don't think I can handle that" or " I don't want to do that", do I say "Fine, I'll file the papers tomorrow." or "Let me know when you can." or what?