Havent seen OM for 3 years.. but now I'm going to have to see him when I call to their house. ANy advice?
Yes, don't call on their house. I've been divorced from my ex-wife for almost 10 years. I think I saw her new partner once as a shadowy silhouette in her car. Not sure she's ever seen my new partner. You can use school, daycare, and extra-curricular activities for custody changes--e.g., one of you drops them off, the other picks them up. Then you see each other only if and when you want to.
My partner hasn't seen or talked to her ex-husband in over a year. She has e-mailed him.
