Wife wont admit to affair, its driving me nuts! 2

[Morbo]

So, its been a year. Pretty eventful.

It got really bad in sept 2018 when my wife's drinking got out of control. I wont get into it but some crazy stuff
happened, endangering my kids. It was awful. Since then she has got her life together,stopped drinking, admitted to being with OM(her boss) but apparently only "dating" since spring 2018 but In know they've had an EA since nov 16 and probably PA a while after.
I dont expect to ever get the truth from her.

Anyway, we're divorced now, 4 weeks. She served the papers and Its all amicable, shared custody etc

My girls are happy, , just awkward going between two houses(or 3 including OM's) but thats all.

I make zero contact with ex wife unless I need to.
I dont recognize her, I dont know even know she is and I cant remember the good times we ever shared. I never look at pics and threw away anything she gave me or reminded me of her. All the wedding stuff too.
I'm over her but not the lies and deceit. Damn, its been a rough few years.

I still blame myself occasionally as I could have done more for her but if she had just stopped drinking, maybe did some MC, if she stopped banging her boss (lol) and if she had actually realized her part to blame in all this and show remorse instead of having to be right all the time we could have maybe saved it.

What annoys me too is the way people look at me now. Moms and people at school and others.
They all see W like she's amazing and look at me as a turd. Probably thinking what did I possibly to do to her to make her divorce me? Obviously an affair or physical abuse. Its upsetting , I'm just hoping karma will prevail.

Anyway, she's a good mom, stopped drinking and just better in general. Still a self righteous pain in the a** though, ha.
I dont like OM but in fairness he seems to be good for her and she's much more stable for the girls and thats all I care about.

Everyone here on the forum really helped me. Made me see the truth even though I was in denial. Thank you so much.
I should have come on here and helped others but I could barely handle my own pain.

Last question for y'all.

So, she's probably buying a house soon with OM or at least renting togetherr. She's going to stop renting her apartment.where the girls stay.
I havent seen OM for 3 years at least , and I was with my W then..He's always hidden out of the picture
but now I'm going to have to see him when I call to their house.

So, how will I deal with this? I go between being all Zen, shaking his hand to really telling him what I think
of him and how his actions(and my wife's) affected my kids. I've played the higher ground so far.

ANy advice?
Thanks!