I don't know if you can win her back, but one of the below sounds more compelling. I hope you get your second shot. After 8yrs of you say a good marriage, her giving up over this is surprising.
Originally Posted by "Dan35"
One hand - if I accepted her choice, that means I'm not getting in her way and possibly shows I'm thinking about her feelings first. Downside: I don't care enough to fight.
"I love you, so I'm letting you go. I have not given up hope on you coming home."
Originally Posted by "Dan35"
Other hand - I resist (even thoug hwe have both agreed not to fight and keep everythign amicable) and she sees I'm fighting. Downside: she can see it as being deliberately obstructive, just to be petty or whatever.
"I love you, so I'm keeping you! You have to try harder if you want to get away from me."
