You're right. You'd have to be a loon to defend a petition based on unreasonable behaviour. Lol my H is a loon; he said he would defend a petition on unreasonable behaviour but would admit to adultery; but he is a Lawyer! To be fair, we have a fault divorce system, you have to prove irreconcilable differences; adultery, behaviour or separation. There is a threshold to get over but they are pretty much rubber stamped by the judge. They barely read them. They figure that if the petitioner went to the trouble of filling it in, then they don't want to be in the marriage.
It hurts I'm sure, but it's not going to be passed round the court staff for a good bit of reading with the morning coffee. Now, the other thing to bear in mind is that due to job losses there is a massive backlog in the courts. My petition was served beginning of august and responded to by H in time. They haven't finished processing July's receipts yet.
The point is; it's not all over. It has to be processed, the nisi has to be issued and then it has to wait 6 weeks and 1 day for the absolute (thanks to the influence that the church has over our legal system) IF you have sorted the financial matters. if you haven't then don't proceed to absolute is the usual advice.
When that absolute is issued. It's still not over. There's no time limit on mind changing. The only limit is if you have both decided to move on. In the time that the Divorce process has gifted you there is time for her to realise that others may be writing her story for her.
