Thanks AS, it really really is. I’m definitely going out of my way not to try to control him/be perceived as controlling him in any way. That’s part of the reason I may have gone a bit over the top with the “it’s your call” stuff in my texts.
I previously wrote that D4s school requested a family pic, and we don’t have a current one. I’ve been thinking of saying to H in regards to this:
“Hey, D4’s school asked for a current family picture, and I realized we don’t have one. I was thinking we could take a new one? it would probably be nice for her to have.”
How does this come across?
Another question: now the D papers have been filed, and I’ve filed my response (so as to not default). When/if he brings up next steps, how should I respond at this point? Is calmly stating “I need more time to think about it” or “I don’t think divorce is the solution to our problems, but I’m not going to try to stop you” or things like that still the right types of responses?
I’m gonna start asking for more specific advice on interactions here. I don’t trust my judgement at the moment (im working on it!)
