Very sorry Dan, that does sound like a gut punch. I don't think your W was being vindictive, but rather just following the letter of the law. Here in the US typically the reason given is just "irreconcilable differences" and no further explanation is needed. Most states here are "no fault" when it comes to D, which means the courts don't even consider whose "fault" it might be, they are strictly interested in equitable splitting of marital assets. The reason for this is the courts used to get very bogged down in "he said she said". So for example, a man might file saying his wife had an affair, but then she counters that he was emotionally unavailable which pushed her into the affair, then he would argue back that he was unavailable because she quit having sex and back and forth it would go. The courts would get overwhelmed trying to sort it all out, so now most of them just don't. Anyway stay strong, getting served is a 2nd BD for sure but it all gets better from here I promise.
