Thanks AS. I kind of figured that and that’s why I asked. I think I get mixed up—-I know I need to be distant and detached (for multiple Reasons) But his complaints about me were that I was cold, distant and controlling. So I’m trying to 180 that stuff at the same time. Clearly I need to find a better balance between those things...
I'm not saying be cold to him, but don't be overly warm either. Strike a balance. Business-like is a good balance. You're not being nice or mean, you're just getting down to business and getting things done. Controlling, well hopefully you're not trying to control him anymore. You definitely want to do a 180 on that. Distant- he may have complained that you were distant in the M but he does not want you pursuing him now, it's too late for that in his eyes. So that is not something you want to do a 180 on.
It's not easy finding the right balance! So these are good questions you're asking. DB'ing is something of an art form.
