Steve, she knows what she did was wrong, otherwise why lie about it. So I'm not buying her story that it helps your relationship and that she is fine with continuing it whether you like it or not. And honestly I think the lying is WAY worse than the convo she had with the guy (or at least the ones you saw). She's being defiant, selfish and rebellious. This is clearly not something you can tolerate, so it's good that you let her know this. How you deal with it would be similar to dealing with a rebellious teen, and there are a lot of good resources on the internet for that so you might Google "dealing with teen defiance" and do some reading. Some of it is specifically parent/ child but a lot of it fits for dealing with a WW too.
AS after her initial rebellion to my confronting, she has now turned quite contrite. Uninstalled all games from her phone. She's shared all passwords. She unlocked her phone.
Now obviously she could have a hidden email account. As I've often told other posters, if someone wants to engage in a behavior, they'll find a way.
I have huge concerns here guys. She no longer has her business. Now she is giving up everything that occupied her time. I almost feel like I'm opening her up to a full blown PA. These guys she's engaged with have been hundreds of miles away, even thousands, and in other countries. What if her attention now turns to someone local that I can't track. She could leave her phone at home and take off anywhere. I know, if she's going to do that then I've got bigger problems, but I'll always wonder if my actions last night pushed her to that.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
