Divorce because I betrayed her trust - I regret it

[DaB35]

Yes I have read about let her go to get her back. It was one of the most difficult things.

Reminds me of Red's monologue at the end of The Shawshank Redemption - "some birds aren't meant to be caged. Their feathers are just too bright. And when they fly away, the part of you that knows it was a sin to lock them up does rejoice. Still, the place you live in is that much more drab and empty that they're gone."

That's basically how I feel about my W. She is a very brightly coloured bird, a force of nature indeed. The house is empty without her; the house itself feels sad without both of us in it.

It will be natural to doubt yourself during the "let her go" thing. I have kept the pressure off recently certainly. It's been hard. She's injured herself physically recently (had a fall in the house and hurt her shoulder) so I'm of course worried about that. It feels uncaring not texting her about that.

I know what went wrong - listening to No More Mr Nice Guy really hit home why I'd been acting the way I have.
My IC is really useful too - should be resuming that next month when my therapist gets back from holiday.

Just find help from all angles. That really assisted me in pushing forward with GAL.