Just a quick update on my sitch. A few days after the coffee shop weekend, everything has been different. She seems like a completely different person but I been trying to take everything slowly. Day by day, I have been seeing changes, the way that she used to be before this whole sitch happened. The woman I fell in love with. She wants to cancel the divorce and reconcile. I have never been so happy in my life but at the same time walking on egg shells. We talked for a while on a few occasions and she told me everything that has happened, not sure if it is right but I told her that I am able to forgive her but can't forget what she has done - said she fully understands and wants to earn my trust & respect back.
Leo, tread very carefully. It's only been 2 months since BD, that's really soon for her to have a genuine turnaround. I'm not saying it's impossible but I've seen it happen before where the WAS "tries" one last time before stating she was just making sure it really was over. So maintain your distance and give her time to show she's really serious about it. If she is serious then she should be willing to go to MC and to be transparent about her social media passwords and activity.
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She broke it off with the OM, since then he's been messaging her daily about how in love he is with her and such almost everyday. She shows me the messages and doesn't entertain him.
Why hasn't she blocked him? When you say she "broke it off", in what way? How this should happen is she should send him one last message telling him that she is fully invested in making the M work, and does not want any further contact with him, and explain to him this is her last message and that she is blocking him. Then do it all while you watch.
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By the way, she still lives at her apartment because we feel that its too soon to move back in - in time when it feels right she's welcome back at my place.
Good! There's no rush.
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I will update from time to time as we are really trying to make this marriage work.
Definitely keep posting as the REALLY hard work is just beginning.
