I am meeting with the lawyer today for advice going forward.
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She will be super angry once I confront her and not sure she will get over her anger due to what she has done.
Exactly, confronting them rarely has any positive benefit. Most of them consider themselves divorced after BD and free to do what they want to do, so to her it's you snooping into her private life and she thinks it's none of your business. As crazy as that may sound, that's how a WW thinks. If you do confront her then expect denial, lies and gaslighting. No matter what she says, just say "We both know the truth, and I just wanted you to know that I know and that's the end of this conversation." Then walk away.
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What is comical in the whole situation is that she makes me feel like I am the crazy one here. Absolutely no respect for me at all.
LH beat me to it but yes, that's classic "gaslighting" and is the favorite weapon in a WW's arsenal. Read up on it so that you can recognize when she's doing it and not get pulled into it. When you're being gaslighted you feel the need to defend yourself which is the whole point of them doing it- to throw you off balance and take the focus off themselves and put it on you. When you respond like I suggested above it blows a hole in their gaslighting. If you do it consistently eventually they'll give up on it because it's not working.
