Anotherstander - I honestly didn't think anything of it when she asked me to hang out for the weekend but meeting new people at least it didn't cross my mind. We just talked and she knows my current situation. Yes, we are just friends - nothing more.
I have heard this so so sooooooooooo many times here. And I've been here a few days. You are trying to fill the emotional void with another person, and it never works. Don't drag someone else into the wreckage of your marriage. Let your situation play out first. You've got plenty of time for lady "friends" later.
Thanks AnotherStander - you are correct. I was trying to tell myself we are just friends, but most likely trying to fill the emotional void. We haven't hung out since that day.
Originally Posted by firemann
@Leo22 - we are running parallel lives. I met someone too and it got back to my STBX. I am equally as confused as you as why the STBX gets so upset.
I've read some previous posts from cadet's welcome thread basically encouraging the LBH to move forward and make it appear that he no longer wants the WW.
Just a quick update on my sitch. A few days after the coffee shop weekend, everything has been different. She seems like a completely different person but I been trying to take everything slowly. Day by day, I have been seeing changes, the way that she used to be before this whole sitch happened. The woman I fell in love with. She wants to cancel the divorce and reconcile. I have never been so happy in my life but at the same time walking on egg shells. We talked for a while on a few occasions and she told me everything that has happened, not sure if it is right but I told her that I am able to forgive her but can't forget what she has done - said she fully understands and wants to earn my trust & respect back. She broke it off with the OM, since then he's been messaging her daily about how in love he is with her and such almost everyday. She shows me the messages and doesn't entertain him. She called my parents and apologize to them, broke down several times, got an earful of lecture from my mom. Everything is so crazy at the moment and I am trying to process this all in. By the way, she still lives at her apartment because we feel that its too soon to move back in - in time when it feels right she's welcome back at my place. I am so thankful for everyone on this forum. I will update from time to time as we are really trying to make this marriage work. I know when I found out about the PA I said that I don't know if I can take her back but I was dead wrong. I love her way to much and we are going to hopefully come out stronger than before. I just tell myself take it day by day, repeatedly. Slow and steady wins the race, right?
