I felt like you were judging me and I couldn't be myself (starts getting teary) and I don't want that for the rest of my life.
It sounds like there's some hope. She used "I" statements instead of "You" statements and is trying to express her feelings, even if the "I" statements suggest the blame is yours.
Originally Posted by "Jaci"
Me: I see I made you feel bad. I agree that I've been too judgmental in the past and I didn't realize how that affected you. I certainly don't want you to feel that way either and I think I've made improvements in that area and I want to love and accept you for who you are. I'm sorry I made you feel that way.
I hear my old me. "Oh, the problem is X. I caused X. Let me fix X. I'm sorry for X!"
Today I'd be like, Me: "You felt like you couldn't be yourself?" Her: <nods> Me: That sounds hard. Her: Yeah, it was..
I'd be curious when she started feeling that way, why she felt judged, what she wanted to do, and who she wanted to be. It feels good to be heard and understood. Sometimes that matters more than the fix.
