Slow and Steady

[Ready2Change]

As always, I appreciate any thoughts.

My2Cents:

Much less talking from you and more listening to understand how she FEELS. Read the validation thread again.



W: We shouldn't be doing it for financial reasons though.
Me: I completely agree. For me there are other reasons if you're interested in hearing them.



W: I see that but I'm not sure if you were ever passionate about me.
Me: I am sorry you feel that way.




W: I felt like you were judging me and I couldn't be myself (starts getting teary) and I don't want that for the rest of my life.
Me: I see I made you feel bad.I agree that I've been too judgmental in the past and I didn't realize how that affected you. I certainly don't want you to feel that way either and I think I've made improvements in that area and I want to love and accept you for who you are. I'm sorry I made you feel that way.





Go to a coffee shop, sit near two women talking. One will be talking and the other will be listening. Observe without getting caught..IE listen to them while staring at your phone. Learn this important skill.