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[joejoe1]

BB,

Hmmmm.... Your mom will be partial to advising you on your best interest and not what's best to possibly save your M. I would limit the amount of information you tell your parents. Secondly, I agree with your mom. Seek legal advice, just to find out what your rights are if a D was to take place. The more you know the better prepared you can be.

If she finds out you went to a lawyer, you let her know, she was cheating on you. It's a good idea to wait until you seek legal advice before you disclose what you know. I went to google, looked up the best divorce lawyer in my area. I called a few and they gave me advice over the phone. I didn't have to go into an office or pay a dime to gather some much needed information to help drive some of my future decisions.

From what I have seen on this site, most people who sit on the information ends up hurting their cause, because, when it comes time for confronting their spouse, they end up looking weak because they waiting so long and was accepting of their spouse in the meantime. For example, you will continue to do one 180s, be positive to and around her, GAL, and act as if. You will treat her like a neighbor. Then when you confront her, she will say, "you knew all this time, and you treated me like blah, blah, blah. Why treat me so nice, and be so positive if you knew this. You accepted it all this time, why are you changing now?"

No More Mr. Nice Guy and tough love will have us be honest with our spouses and transparent. This way, they understand why we are acting the way we are and we are being confident and masculine. The earlier you confront, the early you can begin the process of healing.

You have to continue to detach so you can make logical decisions. You reaching out and getting legal advice, is good for you, and making her upset shouldn't affect you. We know it will, but once you are detached, you can make logical decisions.