I totally agree. After all the information I got the other night by way of messages, I didn't even think about looking at their conversations yesterday.

I know that I want to save my marriage even with all the information that I have and the details that I know. This sounds crazy. I have shared this information with one of my parents. She has strongly advised me to not let her know that I know and that I should see an attorney for legal advice.

I know that if I see an attorney she will eventually find out and this may hurt our chances at reconciling down the road. WE don't have many assets other than our home. Both of us make the same amount of money and we both have retirement. Is there really any need for me to see an attorney? Will this make it harder to save my marriage if she finds out?
I don't think I need to be in a rush and if she ever files then I will have plenty of time to discuss my situation with an attorney.
Please give me some thoughts or experience with this issue. I really think it would hurt instead of help with bringing us back together.