I was being gas lighted and horribly mistreated by my exww when she was cheating. I personally needed the peace of mind and wanted to confront her to at minimum get her to stop the gas lighting and mistreatment. I coughed up several thousand dollars for a private investigator.

It cost a lot but it was worth it. The gas lighting stopped but the lying and disrespect didn't. I felt like confronting my exww was necessary because of how badly she was treating me. I needed some relief and although it hurt, gathering the information and confronting her helped me move on.

YMMV though.

M:16
T:21
H(me) 38
WW: 38
S11 D16 D19
Red Flags of A: March 2018
ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018
Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018
BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018
D Filed: March 27, 2019