Persistent Endurance (Part 5)

[ovrrnbw]

Curtis,

I've been there and done that when it comes to trying to keep a death grip on my WW. I understand that pain and the resistance to letting go. I read your post yesterday and didn't want to repeat myself, I didn't know what else to say. But yes, your W will get mad and be confused. I think my general message has been the same for at least a month. A while back, you were about to break through and she threw some bread crumbs which you happily named a feast.

Really it's time to DB, time to quit worrying about her. You keep trying to analyze her conversations with other men, why? Sever that connection! Make it to where you can't see it anymore. It keeps setting you back.

You want to know what I make of her convos with the OM? That she is screwed up right now. And that's what the OM think too, but they listen because they want some hanky panky. There is zero point to bring it up ever again unless your W is begging for you back.

Have you set a parenting schedule so that you don't have to text your W about it? Have you figured out a plan to get her horse under her care so that you don't have to text your W about it? These are kind of important things that need to be figured out. Once you have a plan, you stick to it and THEN there is nothing to talk about. But just going NC without taking care of stuff first is strange IMO. When I went NC with my W, there was nothing we needed to discuss anymore. We don't have kids or horses or anything. We knew who was paying what bills basically and that was that.