Vapo is right. Snooping will absolutely stunt your personal growth, real or not, proven or unproven. I think the majority of us guys here do it for several reasons after BD. Either because we are territorial by nature, or because we want to prove to ourselves that our suspicions and intuitions are right based off of what we observeve, so we can learn what red flags to look for in the future. Its poor excuse and justification, and has no value in your self growth, but somewhat useful. But still keep a you emotionally stunted. Especially if we have had it happen to us more than once. We question whether it is because of who we are? Who we keep picking as partners, or whether it is just nature? O a result of all three. Learn from it. Write down the signs and use it im case there ever is a next time in another relationship if you see the warning signs, and move on.
