They will get upset if we set new limits and we change things to help ourselves
I recently had an experience with a good friend who is showing signs of some kind of mental issue I can relate it to MLC
They blame us for their issues, and have no sense of remorse/insight and /or cant see their part in their problaems cant apologize this is crazy behavior- for us to try to waste energy figuring out
I would try very hard to NOT blame yourself In truth, If a person is having a mental crises of any kind--this is their issue--we cant respond and walk on egg shells to try to please them plus in truth we will never please them perfectly
Job is right **see a lawyer right away
He sounds like he will continue to go off the deep end and the MLCer gets worse..not better- unless they are either not in MLC or they get professional help
If he asks about the relationship get a therapist number available and say
I would be willing/happy to see if we can work things out I found this counselor and I would be willing to help our relationship if you want to go-
then continue to work on you It takes a lot of energy dealing with the at home MLCER and chances are he will continue to up the ANTI until e makes his choice-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
