Happy Bank Holiday too :-) We have some sun finally!
I have wondered if H is a narcissist and a lot of his behaviour has been existent all the way through the R. It wasn't really until kml pointed it out in one of my posts that I started to realise that. Sometimes it takes someone else when you've been living a certain way for so long.
That said, some of his behaviour is completely out of character which makes me also think of MLC. Who knows? There is no excuse for the A and all he says about it is "I shouldn't have done it because it's morally wrong".
He woke up this morning and tried to hug me, when I didn't hug back I had the script again.
"I'm done" "Theres no glimpse of you trying to change or make effort" "I'm not waiting any longer, I deserve better and so do you" "You say you want to build a new R together but you aren't trying to so I don't believe you" "I don't trust you, you don't trust me" "why can't you admit that it's over"
I am a laid back, carefree person who doesn't rise to drama. I think his only real shock was when I found out about the ow and hit the roof. I don't get angry and he had never seen it. That was the only time I saw him really question his actions and take stock of what he had done.That lasted a week. Since then though he has gone back to walking round like a "sex god" which I must admit I find quite funny.
I have wondered whether I should get angry more as that is a 180 for me but all advice says to not to.
I also asked him whether or not he had seen the ow since coming back from holiday. He said no but I know it was a lie. So he wants to run off with her, but wants me to tell him to go and can't admit to seeing her to keep me as back up.
I think I started to find a strong happy detached place just before I found out about the ow, and need to get back there again. I think it was easier because he didn't want to know me and so I "dropped the rope" and got my own act together. I haven't text or phoned him in around 10 weeks at all. He phoned me at work one day last week.
Since he wants to talk ALL the time now I'm finding it harder to detach from him. And it's all about feelings that he wants to talk about and the R. I try to listen only but it's more that he wants me to talk and If I start I end up saying too much.
