4 months in....(Re: Advice needed)

[Family Man]

Detachment is hard when you're in the same house( and bed ).

I was allowing him to hug me in bed this week and we had been playfully flirting

These perks are not compatible with detachment and H does not deserve them. Do not try to compete with a fantasy relationship - you cannot win that one. You need to establish some boundaries. No intimacy at all unless he behaves respectfully and even then keep it minimal - he must finish wanting more for him to maintain his progress. Show him that it is you who rations out the tender moments and don't be a pushover. As for conversation - that is intimacy in its minimal form. Short, matter of fact answers is all he deserves.