It is very hard. I think because he is still at home and in the same bed etc it is hard to not want to reach out and hug him. I have to remind myself every morning and force myself to detach. I’m also wondering what if he doesn’t move out and stays in the home what the next steps will be. I thought he would have left by now as we are nearly 5 months since BD.
I suppose I just ride the wave and see what happens?
I had thought the intense sad period had passed for me but I’ve found these past few days that it has come back round. I think he finds me attractive still. He has commented that he likes my new shoes, clothes etc and I can tell there is something there despite all denial. I was allowing him to hug me in bed this week and we had been playfully flirting but since he ow has got back from vacation he has gone back to nothing. I think he thinks he is being unfaithful to the ow now!
I will continue to detach and move forward.
We spent yesterday out as a family, and it was tough. He kept commenting nastily on my looks and when a wasp wouldn’t leave me alone “well, someone has to find you attractive” I obviously didn’t respond. I’m trying to do as I would with my kids, ignore the bad behaviour and reward the good.
