Here's what has happened in the last two weeks. XW went to therapy and we discussed about going together there the first time. I did go without expectations(to my big surprise). I don't know if that was a bad thing or not. However something new came to surface that I did not know about. She said that a lot of our R problems came from her. She had realized that an older R before me is still affecting her in other Rs. She was dumped coldly, as she put it(I somewhat know what that feels like). She will continue in IC as will I. We have both have same therapist, that being either good or bad. We both were given the same "homework", to figure out what is our objective. I have to admit that I was pretty sure what I wanted but now I have no idea.
The biggest thing in these two weeks is thatno matter what the outcome, I wish is for her to get her head straight and her life in order.
Me:39 W:36 S:12 D:9 T:14 M:11 Separation:sep. 1 2017 D filed oct. 2017 D finalized july 2018 OM confirmed feb 2018 D finalized July 2018
The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
