Originally Posted by sandi2
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WW: “So OM3 is ignoring me now. It irritates me that he gets to control when we speak and when we don’t.”


That's your clue right there! No, I'm not saying you should respond to her texts so she doesn't get irritated. I'm saying don't respond b/c it DOES! If OM3 was eagerly responding to her texts and showering her with attention, do you think it would bother her that "he gets to control when they speak and when they don't"? Of course not! She would be looking for OM4.

Don't give her the satisfaction. smirk Besides, you have too much self-respect to listen that mess.

BTW, notice how she throws around that word "control".

This woman is out of control, period.
Sandi, being overly controlling was one of her complaints against me. I guess that’s the type she attracts.

Last time I was at her house for kid exchange I noticed two hand written notes on her fridge:
“You are toxic to everyone around you. STOP!!!”
and
“Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you made. If you want a different result, make a different choice!”

I agree, she is toxic to me. I also agree with the second note. I want a different result, so I’m making a different choice, NC in this case.

She can get irritated or not about me ignoring her attempted contacts. NC is about protecting myself too. She can have her fantasy secret life, I’m not a part of that anymore. I have too much self-respect to listen to her feeble lies and coverups. I’m moving on.

Headed out with the kids to enjoy dinner at a Japanese Steakhouse with some friends. GAL time!

Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16
PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18
PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19
R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20
W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20