Persistent Endurance (Part 5)

[curtis7]

Yes, you need to go as dark as possible.

Don't text her anything about going out of contact, just show her.

Don't "allow her to explain" just start moving on. She has never had to miss you Curtis, you've been there every step of the way.

You really need to just not see or talk to her for a while. You haven't had that in your sitch yet.

YES!!! You are right Over. I haven’t responded to any of her texts from last night. S8 had his baseball assessments for the fall season this morning and W texted asking who was going to watch D5. I did not respond. It’s my weekend with the kids, not an emergency, I don’t need her.

Why, why do you want an explanation? You know all you're going to get are lies. You keep telling us what you are thinking about doing, and asking us what should you say. And we keep saying stop telling her things, show her with actions. You don't have to send warning messages. Just do what you are trying to warn her you are about to do. If she knows what's about to come, she will just prepare for it.

Maybe she don't care what your non-negotiables are. You are trying to shake her out the tree. We keep telling you to leave the tree alone and she will come down herself.

So, my advice is to stop telling her what you are about to do and do it.

Actions actions actions.

Joejoe, here is the action she will feel. I don’t want to see her, I don’t want to talk to her, I don’t want to hear from her. The time has come to go completely dark. She can decide what that means and do what she chooses. It’s going to stay this way for a while or until I ever receive an apology for what she’s done to me and our family that I feel shows true remorse.

Btw, I had not registered us for Retrouvaille and have no intention to anymore. That’s an action she can take.