you need to go as dark as possible. Get rid of the horse. She should have no reason to come visit. Set a schedule for parenting. Phone calls only in emergencies. When she calls/texts and it's not an emergency you state that it's not an emergency and hang up or ignore if it's a text. She is bothered by not being the center of attention. It pisses her off that the OM ignores her, so use that to your advantage.
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Maybe she doesn’t understand that one of my non-negotiables is that she is 100% NC with her APs. Is this the time to tell her?
SHE DOESN'T CARE. Saying this just solidifies how badly you want her and keeps you on the back burner. Don't text her anything about going out of contact, just show her.
She is a WW doing WW things. Why are you still tracking her comms? It only keeps you unhealthily attached. Don't "allow her to explain" just start moving on. She has never had to miss you Curtis, you've been there every step of the way.
You really need to just not see or talk to her for a while. You haven't had that in your sitch yet.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
