Quick update. H has raised again about leaving. I think I responded ok “keep me updated with your plans”
I also said that I’m not going to be his plan B. Not sure if I should have said this but it came out.
I have detached more. Is this still what I should keep on with now. Pleasant and friendly but not telling him everything etc and not making much conversation. I won’t assist him in any way to leave.
I did go out for a drive and had a good cry in the car. Didn’t want him to see my little break down. I also came back with take out for myself, and nothing for him which I have never done and he didn’t like that. He even asked our son to pass him my drink!
He is also hating me saying “I might take the kids here” instead of “we could take the kids here” and that’s not something I’m saying on purpose to hurt him. I think it’s out of detaching from him.
He said I have changed and he’s “not a fan”.He means my new ways. Also a big part of the downfall in our R is that he felt rejected and pushed away. Nor many hugs etc and he raised last night hat I haven’t tried to hug him.
I know I should do the counter intuitive but it’s hard when he is stood there getting upset and telling me things are getting worse. Makes me question what I’m doing I suppose.
