Onward and upward!

[sandi2]

This is where I’m at,

1 I’m a good man. I deserve a good woman
2 I cannot change her mind I fully understand this
3 I can’t fix her. “. “
4 when she gets crabby or in a bad mood. It does NOT phase me in the slightest.
5 I will be just fine without her (this does not mean I don’t want her)

Are you really there ^^^^^^^^^^^^^? Most of the above statements come from DB board language, which is fine unless you aren't "living" it. Are you trying to convince yourself you are the man you've described?

6 we are getting along better than we have in years (laughing, talking, joking, a little flirting). We go out frequently. Take drives and such

If you get along better than you have in years, then why are you trying to convince yourself that she is in some type of an affair?

7 we are in an almost relationship. Which I’m not interested in.

Again, this sounds like you are parroting from the board or a book.

8 I need to work harder on GAL. When will this change?
9 she OBVIOUSLY enjoys spending time around me. Soooooooooo?
10 I haven’t stuck to my 180s as well as I could have. What are your 180's?
11 6 months from now there will be a decision made. That is when looking for a new place to live will begin. We don’t like our current rental. You used the pronoun "we", so I assume you see yourself still together in 6 months? That's fine, I just don't know why it has anything to do with where you are in the MR, unless you are using that timeline to decide to live together or separately.

I have become comfortable with me. I don’t need anybody’s approval. I’ve lived too long trying to gain approval from everybody

Oz, I think focusing on building self-confidence as a man is important. You can be self-confident and save the MR, too. I get the feeling that you try to build your ego, but at the same time you think it comes at the price of your M, and that's not how it has to be. You don't have to put her down in order to build yourself upward. You don't have to find reasons to get a D in order to be AMOAFWL. I think you get easily distracted and can get rather obsessed about something. For instance, analyzing the touching. Now, you are getting obsessed about a possible affair.

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