You need to listen to AS , you need to get that clear between the two of you .
Next , your phone/text/AP conversation was atrocious. O wonder she is mad with you . I’m an easy going guy and what you said and did would have made me angry . I assume you have the DR book . You need to start again with a beginners mind .
The therapy isn’t from what she has done to you , it’s how you have let it affect YOU . All those thank you s sound sound passive aggressive and facetious. You have to stop otherwise you are validating her decision.
I know it’s not easy , but you are going to have to learn anew . Use your mind and not feelings
