Last night H texted me before he got here to see D4. He said he had a bad day and he was stressed and had no energy, and asked if it was ok if he and D4 came back here a little earlier than usual. Kind of strange for sure. I just told him I’m sorry he is stressed and no I don’t mind. Not sure what that was about.
Nice validation!
On the mind-reading, I drove myself so crazy early in my sitch that I developed a method to stop it. If I assumed my W was thinking something, I would mentally list out all the alternative options. And then I would look at the list and realize I had no clue which one was right, so may as well stop trying to mind-read.
Example, your H wanted to drop off D4, he had a bad day:
- He is questioning the decision to D - He had a bad day at work - He didn't get enough sleep and he was cranky - The barometric pressure in the atmosphere exerted extra pressure on his neck, giving him a mild headache throughout the day. - D4 wore him out - He was lying about being stressed, and really just wanted a break - He was going to meet someone else - He was feeling guilty about the D and wanted you to have extra time with D4 because he recognized how you were feeling - He was trying to soothe his own guilt - A driver honked at him putting him in a foul mood - He cut himself shaving in the morning - He ate something that upset his stomach
