Dan, like most of us your enemy early on is your lack of patience. You have got to find patience within yourself and embrace it. This situation is not going to resolve in a few days or weeks or probably even months. Realistically you're looking at a year or more of hard work. So roll up your sleeves and get to it. Drop the expectations.
She's given up, yes. For NOW. In a few months or a year she could very well change her mind. Happens all the time.
