I agree with LH. You did well in the conversation.
You can't plan these phone calls out. You have to roll with them. Don't beat yourself up over what someone else is thinking.
Your W is like mine is/was - all over the map. It's a tornado inside her head right now. She has no idea what she wants and she is angry because of it. And of course it is all going to be projected onto you because you are the one she is closest to.
Try not to get Into her head. Nothing makes sense with emotional thinking - I've learned that the hard way.
I'm sorry you feel terrible, U. It does suck. But the feeling will pass - just like all the others have. (I too have to keep reminding myself that, especially now)
Take a moment and breathe. This marathon has a lot of ups and downs. Our goal is to keep an even keel as much as possible.
You can do this, man.
Thanks IW. It was an intense call, you are right about the emotional thinking.
I stayed up late last night with my mind spinning a little bit. But nowhere like it used to. I would have pulled an all-nighter before ruminating. I am much better at recognizing the boundary between my reality and her reality.
Maybe the most disappointing feeling was how far we are from even making any sort of progress. I knew she felt negatively, but it was even worse than I thought. Nothing I can control.
