Yes my therapist and I have discussed this. I've mentioned it a bit further up the thread - it's to do with a fear of failure, low tolerance for whne things go wrong, however small; poor self-esteem; poor body image; not feeling masculine enough.
I am addressing these things with tasks my therapist is setting me. They're working. This in turn is increasing my confidence slowly but surely, and I've not looked at porn for 3 months.
This is great stuff and I'm glad to hear your therapist is helping you identify a plan of action. Some therapists can get stuck in "mirror" mode.
If it hasn't been suggested here yet, I suggest in addition to the DR book you check out No More Mr Nice Guy (NMMNG for short). I can't recommend both books strongly enough.
