Divorce because I betrayed her trust - I regret it

[ovrrnbw]

I think you may be missing some things Dan, and I understand that b/c I often have to read a few times before fully absorbing.

"I don't want to spend a year checking up on you. I'd keep thinking you'd be lying or keeping something from me. I'm young. I can find someone else."

Respect her, hear her, validate her. I can see why she would think that. Hopefully you can too. Those are her feelings at the moment. Validate them.

She obviously still has feelings for you but you keep playing off of those to pressure her into making a firm and lasting decision. Take the pressure off, validate her feelings when she shares them, and give her the time and space she needs. And stop doing things to facilitate the divorce IMO.