Is the rest of my life ruined???

[Max2k10]

AnotherStander makes a very good point about the downside to confrontation: it will cause her to become more careful.

I confronted my wife in early June. Big mistake. She is just as bad about her emotional affairs, but is even more careful to hide them. She seems to be experimenting with using her computer to call EA1 so that there isn’t a phone record. Pretty sure she coordinates with EA2 mostly via FB messenger. EA3 I don’t know...they both have iPhones and iMessages don’t show up on phone logs (they are data sent via Apple not txts via Verizon).

My wife simply resented me all the more and further justified herself as a result. I came across as insecure and needy to her...even though her initial response was positive.

Affairs are a symptom of a bad marriage...not the cause.