Hey Oz, just something quick here about touching your W. I think it is difficult for a man to touch his woman without him thinking it might lead to sex. Therefore, my suggestion for you to have an idea of how to touch and where to draw the line before she gets skittish, is to think of how you would touch someone who is off limits for sex. As some of the guys have pointed out, there are ways to physically touch without it feeling intimate to her. Rubbing her back and shoulders is okay, as long as you don't get too close to her waist line. Taking her hand to guide through a crowd, a restaurant, etc., is usually fine. Trying to "hold hands" while sitting next to her may be too much right now, if she's not ready. Touching her face, hair, and back on her neck is seen as very personal and some women feel it is intimate.
I encourage you to stick with non-intimate physical touches.........like a small touch & go. In other words, you may touch her shoulder or pat her back but you quickly move on and don't act as if it was a big deal. You don't watch her to see how she responds. Just act as if it's all natural. If you rub her back, be sure you don't take advantage and slowly work your way to other areas. Try to think of yourself as a professional who is helping his patient.
IMHO, most women (there are some exceptions) need the relationship to be good/better, in order to desire sex with her H. My advice is to work on the non-sexual touches, and when she becomes comfortable with those type of touches.......then maybe you can start touching her face or hair. Here's the thing, Oz. You need to do it quickly and step away to find something else to do after you touch her face. That's what we call "touch and go". It's important that you act completely normal and that you aren't expecting her to react. Otherwise, she sees it as pressure, and if she's not ready for more intimate touching, she'll pull away.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
