...and now I’m second guessing myself. Did I just let myself get pulled into a mini R talk and the show too much attachment? Was that a temp check? F***
No I think you handled it all quite well. When it comes to D4 then by all means if he wants to be more involved by going to school activities and such then you should back that completely no matter how uncomfortable you might feel around him. Now if he's wanting to do family stuff with you, like the two of you take D4 to the zoo for example, that's a different matter. But if he's just going to something at the school and you'll be there as well then yes, that's fine.
