Haven't got much time as rushing out to work so forgive if I come across blunt.
To her you look weak. Not the porn in itself, but the addiction. Now you're falling over yourself to be nice and helpful even if it goes against what you want. It looks weak.
Be really honest with yourself; what is the motivation for the helpfulness? Perhaps part guilt, part it'll win her back.
She's still in angry and knee jerk stage. She doesn't remember the good, just the deceit and betrayal.
You don't really understand or acknowledge her viewpoint. If you did you wouldn't have judged her as being a prude.
Nobody here is advising you to be a b****rd. You've got a fine line to walk. But take it from someone who has been in a much worse position in many ways; I looked for remorse and a sign from my husband that he was strong and prepared to roll up his sleeves and fight for the marriage. Helping me divorce / separate would not have done that. Instead he ran away and looked oh so weak. His continued weakness in the face of adversity was what ended our marriage.
Final point; if this house means so much to you, why are you going along with selling it and why aren't you living there?
